As veteran homeschooling parents know, some difficult times will come. One day you’ll wake up to piles of laundry that your children are using to play hide and seek in. Ice and snow have locked you inside for days and your teenager seems to be in a comatose state until the phone rings. Life Happens! You will wonder why on earth you had the idea that you could homeschool your kids, run a household, and maintain your sanity.
Now is the time to pull out your list of “Why We Homeschool Reasons”. What? You didn’t make a list? This is a tool that is imperative for all homeschool parents. So determined was I that people would not stare at us when
we played outside or went to the corner store, that I wrote a letter explaining that we were homeschooling and outlined all our reasons for doing so. Then I made copies and circulated them among neighbors, friends and family. I filed a copy away, so that I could pull it out when my courage needed bolstering.
To help get you started, some common homeschooling convictions (which you might have forgotten) are:
• You, the parents are the first and the natural teachers of your children. You’ve taught your children from birth. You love and care about them more than anyone else and have the greatest interest in their success in this life and for eternity. Additionally, the state or government does not “own” you or your child. Alarmingly, this truth has been argued and challenged lately by those who believe that children are a commodity of the state. So, it’s important that you hold tightly to your parental rights.
• You want the best character training for your children. Your family has an important system of beliefs and values to instill and a heritage to pass on to your children. Through the golden opportunities provided by time, role modeling (values are caught not taught), work involvement and encouraging service to others, values are learned and character is built.
• You want your child to have a positive socialization experience while avoiding peer dependence.
Children in a traditional, institutional setting who spend more time with their peers than caring adults become socialized by the culture of their peers. (Most of us have a struggle with peer pressure which is revealed, for instance, in the way we feel when we are confronted by our friends about homeschooling -- and by the way we want someone to tell us how to homeschool -- what materials to buy, how many hours to spend, etc., and why we tend to cast side-glances at how others are accomplishing home education.) This might be unconscious, but it is real, and it is at the root of many of our own self-esteem issues. We want something better for our children. And, today, the school-setting is rife with competition, and worse, bullying. There is now a very real safety threat to consider that did not exist 20 years ago.
• Remember those academic bonuses: You have the opportunity to create a custom-made program for each child. Good homeschools are families that encourage a relaxed environment, the learning style of the child, real-life experiences, hands-on experiences, field trips, much open discussion and a life of balance. Good homeschools become relationship and student centered as opposed to book, teacher, and peer-centered.
Now, this can be hard to see on those difficult days, so make sure you are writing in a journal at some point, noting the good days when that ‘light goes on’, or when you all had a good, long laugh with a humorous book or game.
• That brings us to this important point - You are homeschooling because you want the time to renew your family relationships. Homeschooling is ushering in a restoration and healing of the family in this country. The whole family is key to a healthy society. Homeschooling provides vital opportunities of growing together and learning life-skills as a family.
These are just a few to get those creative juices flowing and give you the encouragement you need.
Take a minute to reflect and to seriously consider the reasons why you have chosen to homeschool your children. What are the prime motivators - are they positive or negative? It makes a difference in your attitude.
Write down your convictions. It will reinforce and strengthen your resolve and it will help you
clarify your discussions when someone asks,”Shouldn’t your children be in school today?”
Tuesday, December 19, 2006
The Gingerbread House
Family Daze
The Gingerbread House
By Debbie Farmer
I have to confess that every year in December a strange feeling comes over me. Oh, it's not like I start adopting stray cats or wearing men's shoes or anything like that. It's more like a sudden desire to do all of the domestic things that I wouldn't think of doing the rest of the year—like making bread from scratch or crafting nifty items out of coat hangers and pairs of old pantyhose.
Now, this may not be a shocking transformation for some people, but anyone who knows me knows that I’m the type of person who glues loose buttons on sweaters and who will toss a frozen pot pie in the microwave, press start, and feel that that can be called “baking.”
But not in December. Frankly I have no idea why this happens. Maybe I'm subconsciously trying to make up for lost time. Or perhaps it's my way of building lasting family memories for my children. Or maybe it's all of the rum in the eggnog. Whatever the reason, it has happened again this year.
I know because the other day my children and I tried to make a gingerbread house. Well, mostly, it was me trying to get the kids to help me make a gingerbread house, but you get the idea.
Now, if you are sitting there thinking that a person who can barely make a sandwich has absolutely no business constructing an entire gingerbread house without supervision, you are right. But, let's face it, only certain types of parents are strong enough to resist a Gingerbread House Kit with the words “fun” and “easy” in big, red letters on the top—and I'm not one of them. Besides, it came with everything we'd need: frosting mix, gum drops and prefab gingerbread walls. All in all, it would take fifteen minutes to piece together. Twenty, tops.
My children listened (mostly to the TV in the living room) as I read the directions out loud.
“To make frosting, add one cup of cold water to confectioners’ sugar and stir until thickened.”
Then I measured the water into the special cup included with the kit and poured it into the bowl.
But, as my son stirred it, I began to suspect there was some kind of problem.
“Mom,” he said. “Can I stop now?”
I looked into the bowl and the frosting was still thin. So I reread the directions, and it occurred to me that maybe, just maybe, “one cup” meant the first line on the special plastic cup and not the second. Naturally, since I couldn't take the extra water out, the easiest thing to do would be to put more confectioners' sugar in. But my kitchen being what it is, the closest thing I could find was a handful of flour and eleven packets of Sweet and Low.
I sprinkled them in when no one was looking then I continued reading the directions: Let frosting stand for 60 minutes. Sixty? I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to be the one who has to tell one bored preteen and one even more bored teen that this is going to take an hour longer than I thought. Besides, if I let them escape now, with the promise to return in sixty minutes’ time, I knew my son would return—I mean, hey, frosting is involved—but I wasn’t so sure about my 14-year-old daughter.
Now, at this point you would think I'd have accepted reality, given the kids the go-ahead to go and wandered away to watch Christmas specials on television. But noooooo. Instead, I slathered frosting on the edges of the walls, stuck them together, and dried the house with my blow dryer.
Then my son and daughter used the frosting to stick gumdrops and eight tiny, plastic reindeer on the roof. Granted, my daughter helped with some protesting, but she relented, and I managed to take several pictures between grimaces, so it looks like my daughter wasn’t wishing she was at a mall with her friends. Years from now, in my senility, all I’ll know when I look at the pictures is that we once bonded over gingerbread. And when she let her guard down, truth be told, my daughter did look like she was enjoying herself.
But if my past experience with Christmas crafts has taught me anything it's that moments like this just don't last. So, frankly, I wasn't too surprised when all of the reindeer slid off the roof and were buried beneath a pile of loose gumdrops.
“Cool, an avalanche,” my son said.
Call me weird, but as I stood there blow-drying the remaining gumdrops to the eaves, I secretly couldn’t wait until January, when I could go back to my simple, undomesticated ways.
Sometimes it's better that way.
* * *
Debbie Farmer is a humorist and a mother of two kids, holding down the fort in California. She is also the author of Don’t Put Lipstick on the Cat and can be reached at www.familydaze.com, or by writing familydaze@oasisnewsfeatures.com.
The Gingerbread House
By Debbie Farmer
I have to confess that every year in December a strange feeling comes over me. Oh, it's not like I start adopting stray cats or wearing men's shoes or anything like that. It's more like a sudden desire to do all of the domestic things that I wouldn't think of doing the rest of the year—like making bread from scratch or crafting nifty items out of coat hangers and pairs of old pantyhose.
Now, this may not be a shocking transformation for some people, but anyone who knows me knows that I’m the type of person who glues loose buttons on sweaters and who will toss a frozen pot pie in the microwave, press start, and feel that that can be called “baking.”
But not in December. Frankly I have no idea why this happens. Maybe I'm subconsciously trying to make up for lost time. Or perhaps it's my way of building lasting family memories for my children. Or maybe it's all of the rum in the eggnog. Whatever the reason, it has happened again this year.
I know because the other day my children and I tried to make a gingerbread house. Well, mostly, it was me trying to get the kids to help me make a gingerbread house, but you get the idea.
Now, if you are sitting there thinking that a person who can barely make a sandwich has absolutely no business constructing an entire gingerbread house without supervision, you are right. But, let's face it, only certain types of parents are strong enough to resist a Gingerbread House Kit with the words “fun” and “easy” in big, red letters on the top—and I'm not one of them. Besides, it came with everything we'd need: frosting mix, gum drops and prefab gingerbread walls. All in all, it would take fifteen minutes to piece together. Twenty, tops.
My children listened (mostly to the TV in the living room) as I read the directions out loud.
“To make frosting, add one cup of cold water to confectioners’ sugar and stir until thickened.”
Then I measured the water into the special cup included with the kit and poured it into the bowl.
But, as my son stirred it, I began to suspect there was some kind of problem.
“Mom,” he said. “Can I stop now?”
I looked into the bowl and the frosting was still thin. So I reread the directions, and it occurred to me that maybe, just maybe, “one cup” meant the first line on the special plastic cup and not the second. Naturally, since I couldn't take the extra water out, the easiest thing to do would be to put more confectioners' sugar in. But my kitchen being what it is, the closest thing I could find was a handful of flour and eleven packets of Sweet and Low.
I sprinkled them in when no one was looking then I continued reading the directions: Let frosting stand for 60 minutes. Sixty? I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to be the one who has to tell one bored preteen and one even more bored teen that this is going to take an hour longer than I thought. Besides, if I let them escape now, with the promise to return in sixty minutes’ time, I knew my son would return—I mean, hey, frosting is involved—but I wasn’t so sure about my 14-year-old daughter.
Now, at this point you would think I'd have accepted reality, given the kids the go-ahead to go and wandered away to watch Christmas specials on television. But noooooo. Instead, I slathered frosting on the edges of the walls, stuck them together, and dried the house with my blow dryer.
Then my son and daughter used the frosting to stick gumdrops and eight tiny, plastic reindeer on the roof. Granted, my daughter helped with some protesting, but she relented, and I managed to take several pictures between grimaces, so it looks like my daughter wasn’t wishing she was at a mall with her friends. Years from now, in my senility, all I’ll know when I look at the pictures is that we once bonded over gingerbread. And when she let her guard down, truth be told, my daughter did look like she was enjoying herself.
But if my past experience with Christmas crafts has taught me anything it's that moments like this just don't last. So, frankly, I wasn't too surprised when all of the reindeer slid off the roof and were buried beneath a pile of loose gumdrops.
“Cool, an avalanche,” my son said.
Call me weird, but as I stood there blow-drying the remaining gumdrops to the eaves, I secretly couldn’t wait until January, when I could go back to my simple, undomesticated ways.
Sometimes it's better that way.
* * *
Debbie Farmer is a humorist and a mother of two kids, holding down the fort in California. She is also the author of Don’t Put Lipstick on the Cat and can be reached at www.familydaze.com, or by writing familydaze@oasisnewsfeatures.com.
Opting Out or Doing Better? Real Reasons to Homeschool (Alice Bachini-Smith)
Opting Out or Doing Better? Real Reasons to Homeschool (Alice Bachini-Smith)
So, you don't want to homeschool. Social isolation, no peers to learn with, no specialist teachers and no serious discipline when it comes to studying are not your idea of the best education for your kids. Add to that the weirdos you've met who take this route, and the fact you would be losing half your income, and the idea is not just out of the question, it's insanity.
Read the entire commentary by clicking on the title.
So, you don't want to homeschool. Social isolation, no peers to learn with, no specialist teachers and no serious discipline when it comes to studying are not your idea of the best education for your kids. Add to that the weirdos you've met who take this route, and the fact you would be losing half your income, and the idea is not just out of the question, it's insanity.
Read the entire commentary by clicking on the title.
Are More Parents Choosing Homeschooling Over Private School?
THE CHOICE OF PUBLIC, PRIVATE, OR HOME SCHOOLING
By Eric J. Isenberg
Occasional Paper No. 132
National Center for the Study of Privatization in Education
Are more families choosing home schooling over private schools?
Over the last decade and a half, the number of home schooled students has grown dramatically. An estimated 1.1 million students are now home schooled each year. Previous research suggests the family values and local school quality influence student enrollment decisions. However, it is less clear why some families may choose home schooling over other private schooling options. A new paper by Eric J. Isenberg uses data from the National Household Education Survey and secondary data sources to examine preferences for home schooling. The author finds that families are more likely to engage in home schooling if the mother has abundant time but scarce income, and if the state public school finance system is centralized, making Tiebout sorting less efficient and private schooling more costly. Preferences for home schooling are especially strong among well-educated parents with younger children. Home schooling of older children is more sensitive to child-specific behavioral needs.
New Occasional Papers from the National Center for the Study of Privatization in Education can be viewed at http://www.ncspe.org/list-papers.php
Director Dr. Henry Levin
212-678-3857
Levin@exchange.tc.columbia.edu
General Information
212-678-3259
ncspe@columbia.edu
By Eric J. Isenberg
Occasional Paper No. 132
National Center for the Study of Privatization in Education
Are more families choosing home schooling over private schools?
Over the last decade and a half, the number of home schooled students has grown dramatically. An estimated 1.1 million students are now home schooled each year. Previous research suggests the family values and local school quality influence student enrollment decisions. However, it is less clear why some families may choose home schooling over other private schooling options. A new paper by Eric J. Isenberg uses data from the National Household Education Survey and secondary data sources to examine preferences for home schooling. The author finds that families are more likely to engage in home schooling if the mother has abundant time but scarce income, and if the state public school finance system is centralized, making Tiebout sorting less efficient and private schooling more costly. Preferences for home schooling are especially strong among well-educated parents with younger children. Home schooling of older children is more sensitive to child-specific behavioral needs.
New Occasional Papers from the National Center for the Study of Privatization in Education can be viewed at http://www.ncspe.org/list-papers.php
Director Dr. Henry Levin
212-678-3857
Levin@exchange.tc.columbia.edu
General Information
212-678-3259
ncspe@columbia.edu
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